For most of my life I thought - I am great on a crisis / hard problems, and performing well under pressure, bad at consistently doing small things without anyone looking.
Like all such self identification, it's a bullshit excuse.
Then I thought that I am just adrenaline driven. What excites me gets crushed. What just needs to get done sometime, doesn't.
(I am "high functioning" - manager in FAANG, multiple graduate degrees, father of 2)
Lately a coach helped me realize. What I don't have is a deliberate practice of giving myself time to sort out the urgent from important. Literally reserving uninterrupted time on the calendar to prioritize and think about what to do (vs, do)
The outcome is this allows me to get excited about things I would have previously been dreading.
Eg - "man, I gotta call X contractor to get a quote" is a drag. Giving myself a chance to reframe it like "I am really excited about upgrading our backyard so the kids can play there better. Calling X is the first step to that, can't wait to do it"
It changes it from annoying task to a part of an exciting project. Because if I wasn't excited about the project then the phone call isn't necessary anyway.
Becoming more religious and developing gratitude has helped.
Waking up every morning and recognizing that my children, wife, home, career are all an incredible gift. And all that work around them is a blessing too - to become a better person etc. Really changes your perspective. I am working on it!