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I somewhat agree with the sentiment, in the sense that I also don't enjoy tech in that way. But we're all different, and the fact that we enjoy things in different ways shouldn't mean that we can't listen to and learn from each other. The author is a very knowledgeable person that consistently writes really good articles.

As an aside, don't put everyone in the same bucket, it's really not great for e.g. trans people that don't want to be associated with that kind of tech enthusiasm. This is like the new variant of strict gender roles, not fun.

Why shouldn’t I assert my preferences?

In most societies it's considered impolite to barge into someone else's house and decry the decor as tacky.

Whose house is this?

Xe's. And as a response to your previous comment, it's not preference so much as completely ignoring someone's personality and instead assuming one based on some stereotype. And I'm sorry if that upsets you but you can't "prefer" to ignore someone because of gender or personality; I thought humans already concluded that's not a Good Thing. Get over yourself.

To me this comment seems far more rude and aggressive than anything I said. Liberal tolerance in action?

Human empathy in action.

Empathy is being rude and mean?

I'm aware I was mean and maybe that wasn't right, so I'm genuinely sorry for that. My point stands anyway.

Anyone trying to guilt you with 'liberal tolerance' is not arguing in good faith.

I'm aware, but I'll take the criticism. Arguments are almost always better without being aggressive or mean. The liberal tolerance thing was obviously crap.

I should have stated this outright; I don't think you were being aggressive or mean at all. You very clearly laid out that they were not in fact establishing a preference, and genuinely 'getting over yourself' is the only course of action when people are genuinely feeling discomfort from seeing people unlike them.

Thats what I mean, I don't think the criticism is at all valid

Thanks.

The only real offputting thing there is arrogance but I don't think the author here is particularly arrogant either.

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