Unfortunately, I do not think you can force racists to stop being racist. Bigotry is perfectly legal.
> affirmative action for example is a very realistic plan
It's also kinda racist.
> people are being treated badly due to those nebulous groupings
This is one of the valid reasons to discuss race. However, I do not see why this means people need "help". What kind of help? How are you going to help? I still have no answers.