> your DBMS is the only process running on a machine. In practice, (a) is never true, and (b) is no longer true because everyone is running apps inside containers inside shared VMs.

There's nothing special about kernel programmers. In fact, if I had to compare, I'd go with storage people being the more experienced / knowledgeable ones. They have a highly competitive environment, which requires a lot more understanding and inventiveness to succeed, whereas kernel programmers proper don't compete -- Linux won many years ago. Kernel programmers who deal with stuff like drivers or various "extensions" are, largely, in the same group as storage (often time literally the same people).

As for "single process" argument... well, if you run a database inside an OS, then, obviously, that will never happen as OS has its own processes to run. But, if you ignore that -- no DBA worth their salt would put database in the environment where it has to share resources with applications. People who do that are, probably, Web developers who don't have high expectations from their database anyways and would have no idea how to configure / tune it for high performance, so, it doesn't matter how they run it, they aren't the target audience -- they are light years behind on what's possible to achieve with their resources.

This has nothing to do with mmap though. mmap shouldn't be used for storage applications for other reasons. mmap doesn't allow their users to precisely control the persistence aspect... which is kind of the central point of databases. So, it's a mostly worthless tool in that context. Maybe fine for some throw-away work, but definitely not for storing users' data or database's own data.