So save-scumming was my solution. Sometimes I played in Wizard mode, but I enjoyed save-scumming immensely, and it allowed me to get quite far, especially to the Castle and drawbridge level, and even sometimes down to Gehennom.
I did reach the Astral Plane a few times, but I never actually ascended as far as I can recall, but frankly, after the Castle level, the game gets kind of boring and unfair for me. I never liked the Wizard's harrassment as you climb back up the dungeon, level by level. Also all the curses really got me down. Save-scumming can really only take you so far if you're not an expert at planning and execution too.
I quit playing Nethack entirely a few years ago. I have moral objections to worshipping false gods, even if it's "just a game". But I bow to the genius of the Developers Who Think of Everything, especially Ken Arromdee, who's played the same MUDs/MUCKs as me, and is also an occasional Wikipedia editor.