You can self host. It helps. Won't help you if major ISPs decide your self hosted ip shouldn't exist online.
If you're worried about getting the same treatment as KiwiFarms...maybe don't spread hate or dox and stalk people??
Governments make the same arguments. If you want encryption you are either a terrorist, or extremist. Everybody should be able to self host, and nobody should be looked down upon for selfhosting.
It is not a bad thing that somebody wants not to rely on any centralized government or corporate system, or want their data to be private.
Centralized bodies are prone to abuse power. We should work towards decentralized systems, and towards self hosting.
If the ability to self-host came, without exception, at the cost of being able to prevent groups like KiwiFarms from bullying, harassing and abusing people, then it would not be worth it.
Fortunately, that's not the case! We can have a middle ground, where people who treat each other with respect and dignity can self-host without fear, and people who abuse the system to actively harm others can be taken offline.
This is a feature, not a bug.