>So yes, when somebody pops up to basically say, "how dare anybody consider the feelings of women"

If Vanessa makes a complaint and I say "okay, but why should we care that you don't like it?", am I saying that we shouldn't care women don't like it, or am I saying we shouldn't care that Vanessa is the only one who doesn't like it?

>the best way I can demonstrate my good intent is by correcting anything that is out of line with my intent.

I mean, it's your writing. You can do whatever you want. I'm saying a) it's unreasonable to demand that others change what you don't like just because you don't like it, and b) it's not unreasonable for others to ask you to defend your request for changes.