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I've been in therapy for 7-8 years with 2 therapists (well, 4 but one was a couples therapist and 1 only for a few months).
Therapy(as well as age, medication, stable life, high income, me doing a LOT of reading/active work) has (mostly) cured me of BPD.
But after 1-2 year of therapy with each therapist I feel I don't get much from therapy and the therapist just uses me for a steady income.
There's so much to say about therapists, ideally they would be great and some really are, but therapists also have their own issues, in my country I know A LOT of people who study psychology and want to become psychotherapists primarily to cure their own issues. I know about 10 people that became/are in the process of becoming therapists and I'd only use 1/10's services if I had to.
I'm not saying that to bash therapists, we are all people and have our own issues and therapists don't have to be zen masters in order to help someone and you can learn a lot from different people (provided you have healthy boundaries).
Anyway, as others have said, I feel that after some point therapists get comfortable into a paid-friend role and I'm not ok with that.
Why would any pharmaceutical invent the cure of a chronic diseases, if they can have you as a customer for life
The bigger problem is that there's very little scientific rigor in what they do. They don't have enough tools or skills to actually help me, because the science isn't there yet.
I don't think any therapist actively avoided helping me, but rather at some point they too get comfortable and sort of slack it off like "So what have you been doing/how was your week" sort of thing.
What do you mean by BPD? If it's bipolar disorder, can you expand on this? Most of these factors (except income) apply to me, and I wouldn't say I'm mostly cured. I'm much better than I was a few years ago, but I still suffer greatly from it.