Comment by gjvc | Hacker News Reader

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You don't. You leave. The die is cast, and the decision has been made. The bozo bit has been set. Those in charge want you gone, likely for some personal vendetta. So what? You fell in with the wrong people. Do not waste another minute of your precious life worrying about this situation.

As a wise taxi driver once said to me "It's not your Daddy's company." Fuck them. Do you really think that people are going to say "There's Stan. He was on a PiP, but now he's straightened out and flying right." Of course they aren't -- these are the narcissistic bullying types which put you in this position in the first place. Nobody likes drama, except these louses of people who foist it on innocent, well-meaning types like you. Engaging with this drama will drain your self-esteem. They have already got you in such a spin you are asking randoms on this site for help. Disengage quietly, and don't feed the beast.

A PiP is a tool used so that they can fire you "with cause" to reduce their liability.

Good luck, and remember: fuck 'em.

[follow-up after giving this some thought]

The "misalignment" that other people have mentioned stems from this: You nobly think you can work your way out of the situation, but the people with whom you are dealing are very much not acting in good faith as you are. Until the moment you see and acknowledge this fact, you will be in a state of confusion as to why, if you are working to improve things, that they aren't getting any better.

Ask yourself why they have chosen this route. If they were decent, and had your best interests at heart, surely a serious and collegiate discussion could have taken place before using this rather extreme "last-chance" option.

I hope you come to your senses very soon and see how they are behaving. Only then will you be able to assess your options in the cold light of day.

Once again, good luck.

> If they were decent, and had your best interests at heart, surely a serious and collegiate discussion could have taken place before

How do you know they haven’t and that OP hasn’t failed those as well?

> How do you know they haven’t and that OP hasn’t failed those as well?

Ah. You clever rascal, you. You got me there, you old fox.

Most management types (as many in positions of "authority") are insecure in themselves, in fear of their position, delight in punching down, or some combination of all the above. In other words, they are not to be trusted as far as they can be thrown.

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