A lot of Go metrics libraries, specifically Prometheus, introduce a lot of lock contention around incrementing metrics. This was unacceptably slow for our use case at work and I ended up writing a metrics system that doesn't take any locks for most cases.
(There is the option to introduce a lock for metrics that are emitted on a timed basis; i.e. emit tx_bytes every 10s or 1MiB instead of at every Write() call. But this lock is not global to the program; it's unique to the metric and key=value "fields" on the metric. So you can have a lot of metrics around and not content on locks.)
The metrics are then written to the log, which can be processed in real time to synthesize distributed traces and prometheus metrics, if you really want them: https://github.com/pachyderm/pachyderm/blob/master/src/inter... (Our software is self-hosted, and people don't have those systems set up, so we mostly consume metrics/traces in log form. When customers have problems, we prepare a debug bundle that is mostly just logs, and then we can further analyze the logs on our side to see event traces, metrics, etc.)
As for eBPF, that's something I've wanted to use to enrich logs with more system-level information, but most customers that run our software in production aren't allowed to run anything as root, and thus eBPF is unavailable to them. People will tolerate it for things like Cilium or whatever, but not for ordinary applications that users buy and request that their production team install for them. Production Linux at big companies is super locked down, it seems, much to my disappointment. (Personally, my threat model for Linux is that if you are running code on the machine, you probably have root through some yet-undiscovered kernel bug. Historically, I've been right. But that is not the big companies' security teams' mental model, it appears. They aren't paranoid enough to run each k8s pod in a hypervisor, but are paranoid enough to prevent using CAP_SYS_ADMIN or root.)