I think my main question is what valid paths forward do people see here? I honestly don't know how to find news that isn't dominated by posturing, at the moment.
Once, the Romans has Gaul problems. They used a generous application of excessive violence, and it was effective.
Once, the US has native-Americans problems. They used a generous application of excessive violence, and it was effective.
Once, the Nazis has Jews problems. They used a generous application of excessive violence, and it was effective.
Once, Israel has Palestinian problems. They use a generous application of excessive violence, and it IS effective.
That said, you have to hold your own accountable for bad acts. Doesn't mean none will ever happen, of course. Nor does it mean that you cannot have legitimate concerns and claims. And your response to a terrorist act cannot legitimately be to try to minimize it. Nor is it a valid response to rapid fire old grievances, many of which are misrepresented or where the people involved were held accountable.
So, in spirit of your criticism, let's try and move past it. You don't know the best path. What are some valid paths?