I feel like I'm going crazy.
If there was an identical civilization residing on an identical earth orbiting an identical sun at the distance of our closest celestial neighbor, there is an exact and precise 0.0% chance that we would be able to detect them.
We wouldn't be able to detect them optically or electromagnetically.
There's no room for debate, we cannot resolve enough detail at that distance and our (and therefore their) highest-output EM emissions would fall below the noise floor. We probably wouldn't even be able to tell the composition of their atmosphere besides "uh there's a little methane, some oxygen, and some nitrogen in the extreme upper layers".
It may be possible to send low data rate pulses between the two systems if high-gain high-power communications equipment is purposefully designed and installed on both planets and used to do so. Like two globe-spanning networks of high-power high-gain highly directional transmitters and receivers that are synced up to allow for continuous operation as both we and they rotate on a frequency ideal for punching through the magnetosphere, transiting space, and differentiating itself from the gigantic broadband emitters (the suns) adjacent to us.
But neither we nor the hypothetical other-humans are doing any of that.
But all of these supposedly smart people are like "where are the aliens? we're looking but they're not there!"
We can't even detect ourselves at the distance of our nearest neighbor!