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I mean this sincerely, what's the alternative? This isn't a situation where women are organizing or just being spiteful and passing up perfectly good datable men to play political games, these men are genuinely considered undatable.

Do we draw straws?

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I don't have an alternative, I was just sharing an observation. It was implied that this group of men is "forced" to better themselves or else be locked out of dating and family formation.

A growing amount of men go for the "or else" part. So it doesn't look like a powerful motivator for change.

Have these men considered self improvement (including having less abhorrent views according to the other gender) in order to become datable?

Everyone makes their choices. If 45% of men are choosing to drop out of ever having a relationship without even trying, maybe that’s on them.

We have to be accurate about the statistic. It said that 45% had never approached a girl/woman. Not that 45% is permanently and actively avoiding having a relationship by choice.

For sure they should become more active, but there may be societal trends contributing to the statistic: increased isolation, limited shared spaces, dating largely moving to apps, poor or no role models, fear of rejection, etc.

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