Huh, I wasn't aware ECN wasn't enabled everywhere yet.
To enable it on Linux:
sudo sysctl net.ipv4.tcp_ecn=1
Across reboots: echo net.ipv4.tcp_ecn=1 |sudo tee /etc/sysctl.d/10-ecn.conf
Other OSes: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Explicit_Congestion_Notificati...