Look at the weight of some cars for comparison. Modern EVs aren't too far off as you say when compared with comparable performance cars:
Tesla model 3: 3920lbs (SR) 4056lbs (LR)
Kia ev6: 4017-4255lbs
Average new US vehicle: 4100lbs
BMW M3: 3,840-3,990 lbs
BMW M5: ~5300lbs
Audi A5: 3,682-3,990 lbs
Toyota Camry: ~3500lbs
Toyota Prius: 3,097-3,340lbs
Dodge charger: 5100-5900lbs