As someone who doesn’t have children and likely never will, I can think of few things more upsetting than reckoning with the judgmental attitudes of the “I made a baby” crowd. If making a baby is what it took for you to become a human being, that says way more about you than it does about birthing a child.
Yet it’s people who think like this who will be coming with pitchforks for those of us who wouldn’t — or, imagine it, couldn’t - feed the meat grinder. De-humanizing language is a requirement for such a movement.