This is interesting. She would often admit that she was codependent and would forewarn that she knew she was being annoying because of that, but then there would be no actual progress/accountability on getting better. It would be this loop where she’d warn that she was being that way, but then she would go on and create an argument out of it anyway. I definitely don’t think she was a narcissist. She’s such a great human being. I think we both didn’t have the tools to deal with our competing insecurities and how they triggered each other. It was a bit of a shock to me since I had relationships with women who were much more secure in the past, and we never got into these intense of arguments. They were always resolved quickly and it never got disrespectful.