How many ascendant beings do you know, because I know zero and I know nobel laureates, Presidents, Prime Ministers, billionaires, and other highly esteemed humans. As far as I can tell, even the most esteemed among us are down in the muck with the rest of us as soon as you stop shining the public light on them.
What preconditions are required to make any of your claims true? Even if your claims are true, are they changing the behaviour or are they changing the fundamental view that drives the behaviour? Because to me, it looks like only the behaviour, which makes it somewhat irrelevant as far as driving understanding. If the species we encounter evolved under competition and scarcity (likely) then none of this invalidates the concept of understanding us trying to kill them as the basis of the beginnings of understanding each other.