I quote OP "Donald Trump was elected president. Can you accept that as a bare fact? Probably not if you've fought with people about it."
I feel that it is important to accept that some things are hard to talk about, and it is important to understand why those things are hard to talk about.
It is hard to communicate rationally while the fight or flight response is engaged. It is hard to communicate rationally to people who either explicitly want to hurt you or who don't mind if you are harmed.