> I don't see many poly gay dudes

From my experience. I only know a few poly gay men. I know far more gay couples in open relationships that have similar lines that I do when it comes to anything beyond that.

I mean, for sure those lines get blurry. Things that you may traditionally associate with dating like cuddling on the couch at a party (just a party, not anything more) or similar things. But, there is still that line.

I do wonder why that seems to be the case. I am reluctant to get into stereotypes to explain it...