"I only robbed your house because you threatened to join the neighborhood watch!" isn't the incisive argument you may have meant to advance.
These are not the behaviours of a 'neighbourhood watch.'
Not black and white but worse and better. And Russia is so much worse (Its main offerings seem to be destruction and thievery) that nearly all of its neighbours tried to join NATO.
This doesn't even mean I "want Russia to win" or whatever, but I definitely would like NATO to put on its adult pants.
You've been lied to. Instead of propagating the lie, please consider informing yourself. Begin by understanding the fact that any such promises were made to a state that no longer exists by people who were unauthorized to make them. Moving on, consider that nobody spends billions of dollars or Euros preparing to defend themselves against countries who are not a genuine threat to peace and stability, particularly those whose leaders have stated their revanchist goals publicly and unequivocally.
Then, go back to the people who lied to you, ask them why they did so, and ask them not to do it again. Chances are, someone lied to them, too.