There was an ooooold DOS game called Flight Unlimited that correctly(-ish) modeled flaps, rudder, etc, and ran you through a flight school to teach barrel rolls, Immelmann turns, etc.

I've been looking for an Xbox/Console game that lets you fly and crash a plane, shoot things in a game-like context, not slide around in some space invaders bubble with laser turrets painted to look like missiles.

Flight Simulator misses the mark (I think) because it's not so game-y. All the fighter jet games I've tried miss the mark because their physics is way too arcadey. Any recommendations?