this seems like a classic case of impedance mismatch, trying to implement a Redis-ism using an RDBMS.
for a shared list in a relational database, you could implement it like you've said, using an array type or a jsonb column or whatever, and simulate how it works in Redis.
but to implement a "shared list" in a way that meshes well with the relational model...you could just have a table, and insert a row into the table. there's no need for a read-modify-write cycle like you've described.
or, if you really need it to be a column in an existing table for whatever reason, it's still possible to push the modification to the database without the heavy overhead. for example [0]:
> The concatenation operator allows a single element to be pushed onto the beginning or end of a one-dimensional array. It also accepts two N-dimensional arrays, or an N-dimensional and an N+1-dimensional array.
0: https://www.postgresql.org/docs/current/arrays.html#ARRAYS-M...
You’re right that managing lists in RDMSes is easy-ish, if you don’t have too many of them, and they’re not too large. But, like I mentioned in my original comment, redis really shines as a complex data structure server. I wouldn’t want to implement my own cuckoo filter in Postgres!