"Eschew flamebait. Avoid generic tangents."

https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html

Or you can not be a jerk and just refer to people the way they want you to refer to them.

I ask people to use the shortened version of my first name and no one seems to have a problem with that.

Have you ever checked your DNA? I actually haven't checked mine. I wonder what I am? How will I ever know?

What if their DNA is XXY?

He/she is not about nature, it's about how you feel