Interesting, so this was effective when you were a child and you only listened and never did anything your parents told you not to? Sounds like if that was effective it might be your personality, but most people aren't like that.

The vast majority of kids will require borderline abuse to force them to do things on a regular they don't want to. If they are forced, it tends to breed rebellion behind their parents back (there's a reason that the stereotype of the naughty "preachers kid" exists).

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5193236/

""" Similar to findings regarding smoking and alcohol use, harsh parenting is considered to be one of the most important predictors of adolescent involvement in risky sexual behaviors """

> Yes, you can decide that the child will eat vegetable and do their homework.

You literally cannot.

When I was 5, I was told I couldn't go out and play until I'd eaten my lunch.

I didn't go out and play.

But I also didn't eat my lunch.

> Grow a spine, set rules, and enforce them. That is how responsible adults are made. If not, your children will still be children when they grow up, and you will be responsible for it.

Despite your best efforts, your kids will not turn out the way you wanted.