I totally agree. There are certain explanations out there which have orders-of-magnitude differences in ease of understanding (seeing i as a rotation, seeing radians as the "mover's perspective", seeing integrals as "better multiplication"). My personal mission is finding these aha! moments which unravel years of confusing symbol manipulation. Calculus is definitely more easily understood with infinitesimals vs. limits (ask any physics major or engineer).
Personally, I'm looking forward to a world where the very best explanations / analogies can bubble to the top. It's ridiculous that 200+ years after Calculus was invented, we still teach it poorly, and nearly everyone struggles.
Rigor & Intuition have a delicate balance in math. I see it as language: children can speak fluently, even if they don't know the "rigorous" rules of grammar & spelling [which are left to linguists]. I suspect the reason most adults have trouble learning languages is because they try to start from rigor (vocab lists and grammar structure) vs. absorbing an intuitive notion of what's going on (and later refining with rigor, "me want food" => "I want food").