> It sounds and feels a lot more like an engineering or product management role—something a lot of programmers would never in a million years have signed up to do voluntarily

Now that you phrase it that way.. I think I'm very glad to have transitioned from 'programmer' or 'dev' to 'big-tech software engineer'. The jobs are very different. I had no idea what I was in for. SWE is much less fun. All meetings and alignments and docs. But I think that's what my job would have been forced to become with AI anyway, so at least it prepared me for this new world.