"where you can gain incredible wealth benefitting from the infrastructure and economy of one state"
With internet sales, it seems like the benefit from local infrastructure and economy is increasingly small. Especially when we are talking about CA and NY, known for tech and finance, which are very geographically unlinked. Even physical products tend to be shipped using infrastructure from receiving states.
In general, the incredible wealth is mostly luck.
Taking more on the income (including cap gains) side would be the better solution than wealth or exit taxes. This would also be more impactful on inequality than an exit tax.