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If you meant something besides your own moral superiority, say so.
Yes, the OP's communication style and personality is a factor in their relationship with the community.
And assuming the "unpleasantness" claim is true, one could say this:
"It is unfortunate that someone with OP's skill set has alienated themselves from the rest of the community. *While I sympathize with them*, the reality is that *skills alone are not enough*, and never have been; making amends with others is just as important skill as any other in this field — or any field where a solitary effort isn't the end-all result. Gregory Perelman, perhaps, can afford to be unpleasant; a videogame reverse engineer, however talented, may not, if they want to both thrive and be happy in this line of work.
It's sad, yet that's how the world works. Everyone loses here."
The parent commenter is unable to do that. In their own words (in a follow-up comment), if someone is unpleasant, their sympathy ends.
This is a very common pattern, alas, in non-autistic people.
That said, commonness is not an excuse.
Incorrect.
I'm flaming them for saying that how pleasant the OP is to be around decides the commenter's ability to sympathize with the OP's predicament.
Nobody asked the commenter to be around the OP.
Quite literally, nobody asked that; and their opinion on that subject matter, however common the sentiment may be, is as relevant as discussing the physical attractiveness of a burn victim in an willful negligence case.
It would be one thing to say that the complaint has no merit, or that the outcome was inevitable given how much the environment changed, or even given OP's interactions with the community.
But saying "I can't sympathize with them because they're unpleasant" is another thing.
>If you meant something besides your own moral superiority, say so.
I hope I was clear enough here.
Note that I never said anything about myself here, so "my moral superiority" doesn't come into play.
But since you seem to want to bring my personality into the discussion, I'll say this about myself: I am autistic, and the words that I say express precisely what I mean.
Please take care to read them, and not look for hidden or implied meanings within.
Thank you in advance for understanding, or at least a bonafide effort to attain it.
You're repeating what I already stated: that your sense of sympathy depends on how pleasant someone is (not solely on how unjust or unfair their predicament is).
No need to reiterate that you don't see an issue with that.