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Jensen's offspring are both adults, at some point the relationship changes from one of total responsibility and dependence to one among equals.

We should really stop with this "just think of the children" knee-jerk

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I have friends who as an adult one of the parents had an affair and and it was pretty tough for them, and the parent child relationship has never been the same again.

I don't know why you seem to be so against considering Jensen's children. Some people really value the commitments of marriage and see adultery as something very serious and damaging.

And project their world views onto others.

I don't consider his children because they are nepo-babies that were hired into Nvidia, make tens of millions of $$$, and stand to inherit billions. They will be fine.

There are so many other children in the world that deserve consideration before his (grown adult, very rich) children.

Jensen should be apologizing to Americans for compromising NatSec.

The world does not have a finite supply of “deserves sympathy” juice which must be carefully metered. One can reasonably feel sympathy for people (and animals too!) who are experiencing different forms of suffering, even if some are much more severe than others.

If you’re trying to distribute aid resources or something, it would be worthwhile to get an understanding of who is suffering the most. But if someone is just having the normal human experience of feeling sorry when they hear another person is hurt, there is no benefit to intentionally cultivating schadenfreude to shut that down. That’s not an instinct we should encourage in each other.

> Jensen should be apologizing to Americans for compromising NatSec

Why? National Security is not in his job description.

There's a tacit expectation that you don't use the privilege of doing business with/within a country to put the people you're doing business with at risk.

He does advanced chip technology it's 100% in his job description and is why he spends a full paragraph talking about natsec in that apology letter

I disagree. Even as an adult I would be distraught if one of my parents decided to cheat on the other. Your children being adults doesn't mean you no longer have a responsibility towards them.

Then its time to grow up, people change, interests change, lifelong love and happy life together is and always was a fairytale. Once you are 20 and somewhat independent its time to relax your responsibility claims on your parents. They already spent a great deal of their so very limited life time on you, at least be grateful for that.

Of course people change, but there's a way to go about it that doesn't involve going behind your partners back and making national news coverage in the process. The fact you don't see that difference is bizarre.

The national new part is only because he is a CEO of the gigantic and strategic company, I was addressing the idea that parents are responsible to adult children in general.

>Then its time to grow up, people change, interests change, lifelong love and happy life together is and always was a fairytale.

If this is your attitude then you should just never get married in the first place. At the very least you owe it to a partner that expects a real commitment.

Perhaps growing up is coming to the understanding that we have a responsibility to each other regardless of our ages.

This is not people changing. This is discovering someone that you had an intimate connection with and who helped shape your worldview actually has some major flaws in character. Presumably and at some level, you probably followed their advice and made choices that lead you to where you are in connection with their wishes and it should be at the very least a great cause for self-reflection given they are not the person you thought they were.

I can tell you from experience that it hits different when you're legally an adult.

For one, there's no custody case. There's often also no child support (some jurisdictions extend it to college students) to speak of.

There's really mostly the sorrow of the parent who was cheated on.

> Jensen's offspring are both adults

So, they are not allowed to be upset if daddy decided to cheat on their mommy after long marriage with some chinese honeypot? I hope you are not planning on start your own family any time soon

I believe parent post's point was that the children are allowed to be upset, but it's a bit rich for the internet to be clutching its pearls on behalf of them if they're adults.

"Think of the children" is a rhetorical appeal to pathos.

There's plenty to talk about here that doesn't require assuming how an adult is going to feel about another adult's behavior.

Forget the children. Please think about the shareholders!

I notice quite a few people worry more about the financial implications (nVidia's stock price) than the ethical ones.

I think many of his defenders are very worried about the financial implications and are defending him to try and steer the conversation in a way that will minimize those implications.

> We should really stop with this "just think of the children" knee-jerk

From the horse's mouth:

>> My actions hurt her and our children.

Parents (or "equals") can hurt and and disappoint others at any age - including adults.

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