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What would you do in their place if you didn't have experience and possibly connections?

True networking has always been about building a mutually beneficial relationship. That's hard, though. It requires being genuine and being able to offer real help.

So people instead try to shotgun their message to everyone. They hope someone will give them something helpful and don't care what all of the other recipients think.

So if you want success, try to be more on the mutually beneficial side and less on the spammer side.

Ah, it seems to me more clear that you're more against the types of messages you get, not just that you get messages. I think it's partly also because people fear rejection, so they put low effort into communication so they may say 'things didn't work out but didn't lose much either'. Usually the opposite is bad as well, I used to get enthused and reach to people with long messages and detailed questions about their work (before LLMs), only later figured out people are suspicious of too much effort too.

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