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I'm a guy and I've gone on a couple dozen dates from online dating sites over the years and met six of my past girlfriends this way. All of these dates came from women who wrote to me.

Cultivate interests that appeal to women, write an interesting profile, and put up a nice photo and the women will come to you. (I'm no Calvin Klein model, by the way.)

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Cultivate interests that appeal to you. Those interests will probably appeal to people you will want to date as well.

For many geeky guys, this turns out to be a self-indulgent view that will virtually guarantee that they'll spend their life alone. I've met plenty of guys who think that they should just be able to find the video-game playing, D&D-, MtG-, hard scifi-, Linux-loving girl geek of their dreams. If they can, more power to 'em! On the other hand, I'm willing to bet that their chances will be significantly increased if they develop a taste and passion for art and cinema and cuisine and travel, etc.

Of course, it's not going to work if you end up having no real interest in these things, but if you do, then you might take these interests off of the back burner.

Another common fallacy is that you can weigh 300 pounds and yet attract a 110 lb waif. It's been known to happen, but the odds are stacked against you.

> Another common fallacy is that you can weigh 300 pounds and yet attract a 110 lb waif.

For guys, being skinny isn't considered that attractive though. Better than being fat, but not as good as being buff.

Yes. That being said, women's tastes seem to fall on a broader spectrum than men's. If you're a skinny guy, dress flatteringly and you'll be attractive to some non-trivial demographic of women. Skinny guys can look great in a suit or more formal clothing, or they can get skinny jeans and go for the heroin chic look. Same is true for heavier guys. Take up touch football on the weekends and there will be a demographic of southern women who will be into that.

I have two different male friends who were really very skinny and both were constantly picking up thin women. They just put themselves out there.

I am not particularly buff, and I've had about a dozen girlfriends, and have "dated" another ten or so. Now if only I could meet the right one....

Except the gender ratios for interests are not all equal. For every gamer girl, there are multiple gamer guys hitting on her.

> Cultivate interests that appeal to women

Yeah... nope.

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