RSA can be cracked by breaking the public key down into it's prime factors to discover the private key. AES is much more expensive per "try" because the algorithm itself includes many more steps to do a decryption even with the correct key.
Not the most detailed answer I grant you, but I don't understand all of the math involved.
When you see "256 bit" used in the context of SSL, this is referring to the block cypher used in the actual transmission rather than the RSA key size.
So an SSL implementation will probably use a 2048 bit RSA key and a 256 bit AES key. RSA is used to swap the shared secret which is used as the key to the main AES tranfer.