Thanks! Only there's a small problem - I'm not a drinker. Perhaps I will try cafes.
I'm sure the main point is go when the staff have some downtime and the business is a social business. I can't remember where it was but I've gone to a cafe for a tea and ended up playing backgammon with some old guys. Many countries seem to have a strong cafe culture where old men sit around playing board games (Middle East and Central America; chess and backgammon).
Best of luck. If you find it hard to socialise now I am sure after travelling for a while you will be much more comfortable with it.