He's not asking for pity or for you to explain why he feels pressured; he was asking about whether things are this way for everyone, and why things are this way. Your post completely ignores this and takes the opportunity to condescend to him.
I hadn't thought I was doing that, but thank you for saying it. I'll re-read and I give it some more thought.
I don't disagree with your general reasoning and what you wrote in the post, by the way. I think I agree with it. It's just inappropriate for the discussion, at least as it's written :-)