there's certainly a balance to be had, and it isn't fully in favor of short term happiness, either.
> blowing off your obligations
She is 12 years old. Are you people mad? She has very few obligations and that's a good thing. Let her have some fun before she needs to start being an adult.
huh, can't find the part where i suggested that. or anything like it.
in fact, pretty sure i said something about balance.
> She is 12 years old. Are you people mad?
i was addressing the values that kids should be taught, not the expectations for their behavior, and certainly not the expectations for one particular kid i don't even know.
perhaps look harder for alternative interpretations before resorting to madness as the most likely explanation next time?
Exactly. And see nobody wants to believe that. They want to think that things will just work out.
I'm wondering about how many people downvoting or disagreeing are aware that the major problem in marriage (as reported in popular culture and I believe it from my observation to be true) are money problems. So sure hey continue to pursue what gives you happiness but don't forget the things that allow basic survival.