Let's assume you're right. The principle of charity is then doubly applicable: it would prevent the needle from getting stuck in that low-quality groove.
When you're using terms which are very heavily politically and emotionally loaded to label people who disagree with you, you're going to get that sort of response back.
You can't be deliberately uncharitable to people and then say, "But you should be charitable when you respond!"
This just isn't a substantive post. It's full of loaded language, highly questionable assertions, and doubtful anecdotes.
(2) If a phrase that you suggest is used, would this allow you to focus on the substance of the argument?