Also remember that HR are not your friends, they don't work for you, they don't understand your job, or you as a person; they work for the company; their job is to:
- make sure the company doesn't overpay for "resources" (a "talent buyer" if you will)
- make sure said resources, once hired, stay in line and don't make waves of any kind, and terminate them as needed, as silently as possible.
We tend to think of HR as an adult version of the nice and benevolent elementary school teacher who first helped us understand the world; the reality is they are more like cops. Bad cops usually.