>>What if Apple had failed?
What if the Federal Government subsidizes mortgages causing a housing bubble and subsequently making our entire financial system to collapse costing hundreds of thousands of jobs? What if California spends $6B+ on a high speed rail system and no one uses it?
I understand what you (and by extension, she) are trying to say, but remember that every government action has risk and reward, just like every action taken by the private sector. It would be nice if we could keep the risks/rewards of the two sectors completely separate, but that would entail moving to either a completely communist or completely anarcho-capitalist model of society, which might be nice to think about in theory, but will never happen.
It's important to note that even if Apple and Google send all their profits and jobs overseas, their investors still have had to pay out $100B+ in capital gains taxes over the years. This has more than paid back any investments the gov has made in them.