The extreme attention applied to discrimination, harassment, and civil rights issues in the US is a cultural phenomenon that goes far beyond women in tech.
Alleging that men in tech (all of us?) need "to document the proof that women are liars and tricksters" and that the implicit draw of these stories, at the heart, is "she thought she was a victim and she was wrong" is simply misandrist stereotyping.
You cited the attention given to these issues as evidence; I think you should consider that this attention is not unique to women in tech, and is also exactly what feminist activists want. The coverage (and the jury decisions) aren't always in their favor because people are diverse.
Beyond your prejudices I think you'll find that there are men who feel the way you describe, and men who are staunchly feminist, and a lot of men who realize women are diverse: heroes, victims, productive workers, and yes, sometimes, "money-grubbing exploiters of worthy causes."