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And, when having to chose between high competence meeting minimal expectations on team spirit/communication/people skills versus the other way round, ALWAYS choose the former.
YOU DON'T HAVE TO ACCEPT THESE LIMITS !!! THIS IS A CLASSICAL NEGOTIATION TRAP NEWBIES FALL INTO !!! THEY WILL TRY TO MAKE YOU BELIEVE THAT SURRENDERING TO ANY OF YOUR COUNTER REQUESTS IS A VALUABLE CONCESSION. IT IS NOT. THEY HAVE SET THE OFFER FAR TOO LOW FOR THAT SPECIFIC REASON !!! DON'T FUCKING BUY IT !!!
Guys, you have to learn to play bitches: i) be very patient (time is on your side, you are profitable), ii) talk to other interested parties (i.e. confront the offers to raise the price, and yes I mean multiple rounds; one shark smell blood? get more sharks in the pond! now is the right time!!), iii) don't show you cards, reveal your intentions or commit now, because you are in the process of finding what your intentions are and it depends of theirs too, iv) set YOUR own rules ON THEM whenever necessary (have no hard feelings about it, because they don't have any for you by making a low offer; from your own description, they are not being nice to you), v) never ever buy into whining and strong or manipulative emotions from other parties, they know how to play bitches like you don't (and sometimes, bitches fake friendship, caring and honesty very well; they send the nicest guy/lady, the one that has the highest chance to win your sympathy; it is nothing more than fucking smoke to get a better deal than they actually deserve; YOU did the hard work).
If you don't feel comfortable enough, find an independent professional negotiator with strong AND proven experience who can do that job for you. Discuss the limits within which you are ready to sell and list what you consider acceptable and unacceptable terms. Be honest and candid about it, no early concessions. Then, (re)open discussions starting with the double (at least).
Reward the negotiator with a percentage of the deal. Pay him well, because he/she will obtain a value that you will never ever be able to obtain yourself considering your experience in negotiations.
The hardest thing to understand (or to remember) is that 'no deal' is better than a 'bad deal' in your case. You must be ready to consider that option as the best option, especially if there is no zone of possible agreement between you and the other parties. Negotiating IS PRECISELY about finding out if there is such a zone.
And don't listen to those saying you should turn the offer down because 20% 'is an insult'. They are ignorant morons of no value (really). Now is SURELY NOT the time to quit discussions.
You are in the power position, but you don't act like you know it, or that you know how to play it. Take your time. Buy no drama. No rush. Let your brains run this show, not your hormones.
We were a group of 5 top friends at high school. We were popular, entertaining, going on vacation together, you name it.... At college, we carried on meeting, going to parties, but something became odd for me. It was obvious they were willing to carry on with immature/teenager activities and I wasn't...
I just did not enjoy it anymore. It was not in me. I had grown up. I told 3 of them I was not willing to participate to this anymore. The 5th one did not care, we always got along well. In fact, he was participating in those juvenile activities less and less too and developed his own branch of friends.
Two really take it badly, as if it was some kind of betrayal. They adopted a dogma attitude. I knew them since I was 5 years old. They reacted emotionally and would not address the maturity issues. It was a one-sided conversation. They carried on their juveniles games until their early thirties.
I was even replaced by another guy to fill the gap. When #4 got married, my replacement was invited to the full ceremony and I was only invited to the cocktail. He knew my replacement for a couple of years then, I knew him for more than 20. It was a bit of a shock, but not a real surprise.
I knew they were acting juvenile beyond their 20's to cover for their insecurities and lack of will to become mature and responsible. Today, we are connected on Facebook and exchange messages from time to time. I do not regret the split 20 years ago. I got to meet different people and developed new fulfilling relationships.
Even if Tandberg were granted a patent because the USPTO missed the information provided in the post, it would not stand in court.
Such information should be communicated to the USPTO to have them kill the application during examination.
Case closed.
The argument being that 3rd parties have no means to validate their implementation. Hence, there is no practical way to implement Java SE independently.
Considering the dominant position of Oracle/Sun, we can't exclude the possibility that the European Commission will start a new anti-trust investigation against Oracle/Sun.
Remember 'Good Will hunting' when Robin Williams comes back to Matt Damon, telling him he summarizes people out of what he read in books? It's the same s.it !!!
Matthew Stewart shrinks MBA's to his narrow understanding of it. He is definitely not one to take advise from. Really not. Talk to those who have an MBA.
Barry-cotter: Thanks for posting those links.
Sometimes, simply throwing it out there for people to try, will raise interest. Many great company started with people inventing things they had no plan to sell.
The statement made in this post is naive at best. The strategy consisting of aiming at a potential customer, loading and shooting has created many monster failures too. Things are not that systematic.
It is obvious the writer does not know much about strategy courses delivered in MBA's...
Problem is, I still don't know whether people considered it a spam or whether there has been a glitch last week (I mean, why hasn't it been displayed on the main page?).
I have no problem if some people found it a spam, but I think I have a right to know then. Isn't it a legitimate request? There must be a possibility to display that info to the poster only?
P.S.: I am adding my link here again so people can judge whether it is spam:
http://adamman71.blogspot.com/2010/07/jxtajxse-26-is-out_433...
I'd love to have people's opinion. Thanks !!!
From the guidelines, I see: "If you think something is spam or offtopic, flag it by going to its page and clicking on the "flag" link. (Not all users will see this; there is a karma threshold.)". Fine, I have no issue with a Karma implementation.
But, I don't think my article was about spamming. I was just announcing the new release of JXTA/JXSE 2.6, an open source P2P project initiated by Sun Microsystems in 2001. This is not different than PostGre announcing a new release (for example). I don't see why it would attract 'negative' Karma.
My issue is that I don't see the flag link. Moreover, there is nothing telling me if I have attracted 'negative karma' at all. If people 'vote' that way, I believe they should assume it and this information should be displayed (if not to inform the poster of spamming).
After all, HN is about providing opinion about posts. I don't see why negatives should not be revealed and accounted for publicly.
Conversely, I can imagine people instrumentalize this 'flag' link to kill a post not in their interest. Far fetched, but possible. There is a gap to 'get away with murder'.
I believe more transparency about negative karma would not hurt HK overall, and would improve overall experience of newcomers.
I sent an email for explanation to HN, but did not get an answer.
Are there hidden arbitrary rules? Is everything disclosed? Can HN silently kill a post? If so, I think this would be unethical...
Can someone from HN clarify? Thanks !!!
I have a Master in Human Resource Management (on top of a IT degree and an MBA). For me, your case is a clear case of tacit abuse.
If the product you are working on is now selling, then it means you MUST have some good skills somewhere. Fact is, you are the one who has the power, but it seems to me (and I don't mean to be rude) that you don't have the guts to use it.
If I were you, I would start searching for other positions offering a much better salary for your skills. Then, come back to your company and ask for a decent raise. If you don't get it, move to the next job and don't feel guilty about it. They are not treating you decently.
You have a kid and a family to take care of.
I understand the need for sacrifice in start-up and the need for long-term commitment, but it still does not add up to me. It does not seem like you have shares in this company. If it becomes very successful, will you have a piece of the pie, I mean FOR SURE? Or are there just mere promises?
Take care of yourself and push back on this crappy situation.
That is my advise.