Bad Blood by John Carreyrou
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So which language do you speak in your dreams?
I used to joke with my brother and turn his TV on/off, he went crazy thinking the TV is broke.
Currently reading "never split the difference".
Read this back in January. 10/10
While in bed about to sleep, I take about 5min to do the following:
- Think about 3 bad things I did during the day
- Think about 3 good things I did during the day (from smiling to a cachier, to helping someone in need, to sharing knowledge with co-workers)
- Re-visit what I did the whole day and be thankful for everything. And I really mean litterarely for everything (made coffee in the morning? I'm thankful for having a coffee machine, a full fridge, thankful for the weather, money I have or don't have..etc).
The above has helped me with two things: Remembering things (I have a bad memory) and be more happy with what I have. And as someone said "Happiness is doing more and expecting less".
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I'm new to react and thought it would be used in MVP's.
Can someone explain please
I wish I exercised more, did more yearly blood tests checks and was more considerate around my diet.
2) That one should be thankful for what they have
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Sounds insane
You can have multiple wives even if you are not rich or just look average. I would say the majority of men stick to monogamy (90% probably). Having more than one wife comes with a lot of restrictions such as:
- All your wives have an automatic stake in your inheretence. In islam you can't choose who inherits what, its already set in place for you.
- All your wives need to be provided for by yourself. Even if they are rich. You as a male are required to provide for your wife and Children
- Be just between you wives. You bought a house for one? buy the same for the others. You took your first wife on holidays? same for the others. The quran state that you need to be just, but argues that you might not be able to achieve justice all the time.
Most people I know who have a second wife have specific reasons for doing so. For example a guy in my family had his wife choose his second wife for him. She couldn't have any babies and he was adamant to have kids. She agreed to stay with him, but only if she was involved in choosing his second wife for him. They have two houses one next to the other, and the kids play more with his first wife than with their mum.
For monogamy in general, arab men have it really somehow easy to get married. You just need to have a job and look somehow acceptable. There is no dating culture as in the west. You wouldn't find a man and his girlfriend living together and trying things out for a few years before deciding to marry. You get to know your future wife and meet with her (between a few months to a year most likely) and then decide to get married.
Having sex before marriage is frowned upon, but doesn't mean that it doesn't exist. Most women in the muslim/arab world are actually looking to build a family and have kids. Not all of them agree to you having a second wife.
One Dog - Kalb
Two Dogs - Kalban
3 - 10 - Kelab
from 11 - 99 would be: Kalban.
100 - Kalb
101 - 110 - Kelab
111 - 199 - Kalban
200 - Kalb
etc
I would just sit there staring at my screen and doing nothing. I would get emails/calls and other queries and I would just push everything back to next week. I was tired all the time and just wanted to sleep. I called in sick several times and slept the whole day.
2) How did you get out of it ?
Resigned, then moved out of the country, found a new job and started a plan that included:
Fitness, social life, a good diet, travel, new hobbies.
Be aware though, some people think that just by moving away from a place/job/problem you will get all your problems resolved. When in fact I found that some of the issues I had were related to my personality and who I was rather than anything else. The sooner you recognize this the better for you.
This is an eye opener for me as a SaaS newbie. A must read for anyone trying to build a startup.
This is a must read. It will give you a lot of insight on how to deal with people.
2. Gödel, Escher, Bach by Douglas Hofstadter
3. The Master Switch: The Rise and Fall of Information Empires
4. Zero to one Peter Thiel
5. The republic – Plato
6. The Hard Thing About Hard Things, Ben Horowitz
7. The 1-Page Marketing Plan: Get New Customers, Make More Money, And Stand Out From The Crowd Kindle Edition
8. Shoe Dog: A Memoir by the Creator of Nike
9. Never split the difference
10. The Lean Startup: How Today's Entrepreneurs Use Continuous Innovation to Create Radically Successful Businesses Hardcover
11. The Four Steps to the Epiphany: Successful Strategies for Products that Win
12. Economy course: https://www.core-econ.org/
Try to count to 3 in your mind before saying something.
I would also invest in hobbies where there is a lot of thinking and less action.
Good: - Chess - Yoga - Anything where you need to wait/think before acting
Bad: - Quick quiz apps - Anything that require you to act quickly
how has it affected the way you interact with people?
It did affect my interaction with people in general. I'm married and have a baby, but still think I suffered from working from home. Don't get me wrong, it certainly has a lot of pro's:
- Don't need to commute to office
- Don't need to iron my shirts to go to the office
- Save at least 3-4 hours per day because I don't have to travel
- Less likely to be interrupted by a colleague. Unless they call or email you, they don't have a chance to come to you or meet you in the kitchen and interest you to work with them in a new project.
Now to the con's:
- Your communication and interaction with people will go down (unless you invest your free time to be around people)
- Promotion, promotion, promotion. It's difficult to be promoted if you never show up, never had a chance to network with colleagues and managers on a daily basis, never had face to face meetings to see and be seeing.
Has it made some things more difficult to you?
Yes and No. It made me relize that I need to invest more time interacting with people. Both for the sake of myself and for my career. It actually made me a bad husband and father. I'm less likely to talk and became more introvert than I'am. I think if you don't train the communication muscle regurarely, you are bound to become more introvert whether you are single or not. I made the mistake of buying a PS4 and playing games right after finishing work then going to sleep. It took me almost two years to realize that I basically didn't talk to anyone, not even my wife unless there is something to talk about.
Moral of the story, if you don't invest your time in communicating and interacting with people you will become more introvert and used to be not "Interrrupted" even when you are not working.
I sold my PS4 a year ago and started going to meetups and playing soccer. It made a big difference. For my next Job, I will be looking for a desk based job with a few days working from home.