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I suppose the problem with every graduation speech is that it's some knowledgeable wise person up there talking essentially down to a bunch of life newbies down here. That is so rarely going to be interesting.
For that reason a manager in his position has to be hyper vigilant and really have his approach down pat, which appears to be the case.
You can layer on certain guided thoughts (like mantras and chants), but meditative practice is more powerful the simpler it is. You must strip away as much as possible -- to just sit and bring the body, breath, and mind into sync using breath focus and an aware non-judgmental mind. There are many books written on the subject; I can personally recommend Mindfulness in Plain English (free version at http://www.urbandharma.org/udharma4/mpe.html).
Meditation of this form is key to transforming your entire life. It is the gateway or pathway you can use to find and accept your true self and see yourself and your life for what it is. It is how you truly see that you cannot escape the present moment and that you have the full ability to choose how you relate to it. Sogyal Rinpoche says it better than I: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0tIBYxed16s.
I think it's just one way a consistent low level fear manifests itself in our lives. Breaking out of that secure routine is not just scary by itself -- it'll dredge up a host of un-faced fears we carry around trying to avoid. I have the luxury of pointing this out from my desk in my office as I look forward to lunch hour.
As such trying to put the experience into words is going to be unsatisfying and even absurd. It's vaguely akin to describing the taste of a hamburger to someone who's never eaten beef or bread (or pickles, cheese, etc...). Words cannot suffice.
Today I was fortunate to have my Dad meditating right beside me for awhile. For the first time in 37+ years (i.e. exactly how old I am) I felt his presence and realized that it had always been there. Every second of every day of my life, my Dad has been present. He definitely fits the type A anxiety driven archetype, and he always struggled with working and really being with his family. His presence almost always manifested itself as a highly interested attention, which I let grate on me many atime -- especially during my teenage years. In fact I don't know if I've ever really acknowledged it as a presence rather than something else, usually unwelcome. But now I realize that in many ways its what made me who I am today. Be present indeed.
The Boy Scouts certainly helped me face my self directly, almost always against my preferences. Now if they (and I) had done a better job at prioritizing my time and dealing with my "atheism" I'd have made Eagle. Of course I would have felt guilty supporting an organization that essentially required a certain form of religious belief and also discriminated against gays.
Their message and practice is flawed but still contains quite a bit of wisdom.
Except of course this should not have been a black swan to BP and regulators.
For one, it is an excellent way to hone the practice of focusing your mind on your immediate activity. In Buddhist mindfulness practice you will focus your mind not just while sitting meditation, but also while walking or doing chores. Eventually you will be able to bring this focus to every activity you engage in during the day.
So in a way you move into the zone on a semi-permanent (or even permanent) basis.
The broader Buddhist philosophy is also an excellent way to eliminate distractions from your mind. In that philosophy, thoughts and feelings arise almost exclusively due to internal processes, and an important aspect of mindfulness meditation is letting those same thoughts and feelings go. So instead of distracting you like normal, the thoughts and feelings will "run their course" and dissipate much more quickly.
This is how the practice has benefited me the most. I now know that my normal distractions (e.g. checking HN compulsively) are not going to provide anything for me -- they are not a source of happiness or contentment. The mindful focus is my source of that happiness and thus preserving it is what I naturally want to do.
All that said my practice is far from perfect, as I do find myself here reading and answering questions. YMMV :)
Just use "sizex" and "sizey" like a Microsoft programmer from the '90s.
4. Stop it with the relentless busyness -- take some time to just be, to stop and enjoy the life you have.
It applies to everything; the people around you, the leaves on the trees, the sky, your computer, everything. If you are able to develop a strong attention on the present you can even develop "flow" around everyday things like washing the dishes or walking. Normally people require more intense experience like driving fast or listening to music to achieve this state, but it can be achieved anytime anywhere. That's what will tie it all together and hopefully leave you with no regrets as time passes.
Maybe just staying after school with highly interested researchers had a knock-on effect on intelligence?
If the car is not ready for whatever reason there is no fallback... that car has to attach or else there will be a collision. It seems far too rigid an approach to accept regular humans as a moving part.
Of course, it becomes a much more acute problems when lives are on the line.