Volrath89

> If the condom pops, the next step would be a day after pill. That applies to women, men get no say in that.

What I do (thankfully it has happened only a couple of times) is to buy the pill together with the woman at the next day and be present when she takes it. Trust, but verify.

So, is TRT a low dose steroid? or what's the difference?

It seems that both increase your testosterone levels, and it seems that is what help bodybuilders with their muscle mass

> Is it the early rise, or the constant presence of the opposite sex?

Funny because for me it was totally the opposite. When I lived together with my ex wife it was super difficult for me to wake up early, because she didn't, so I was just so tempted to go back and cuddle with her until 8 AM when she actually woke up.

During the pandemic because we were both working from home, we'd always take a nap together after lunch as well.

Now that I am divorced I have no problem getting up at 5:30 AM everyday and avoiding daily naps. And I am also way more productive compared to when I was married.

Would you take full remote applicants? I can adapt to the time zone and think I am a good fit for the position

Remote: Yes (US time zone) Willing to relocate: No

Technologies: C# .NET MVC, React, Angular, JavaScript, REST, SQL, Azure DevOps, AWS.

Résumé/CV: https://www.linkedin.com/in/suarezafelipe

Email: suarez.a.felipe@outlook.com

Github: https://github.com/suarezafelipe

Available for a 40 hours per week fulltime job as a senior developer or technical leader. Looking for long term roles only.

I am very flexible with my working hours and can arrange my schedule easily for a US or UK company.

I am a full-stack developer with more than 8 years of professional experience mostly in the C# .NET stack as a full-time employee in different companies. I have been working remote even before the pandemic for clients in the USA, UK and Germany. I have worked in banks, fintech startups, high traffic sites and also back-office crud development. Able to work on the front end without any issues, having done projects mostly in React, but some Angular as well.

I am able to start from January 1st, 2023, feel free to contact me.

I think peers in a team always know who is the one who gets almost everything done. Maybe people in managament or in leadership positions don't know, but me in an individual contributor role always know who is the most productive and the one with the most business knowledge of my team.

But this is after you have already grasped the basic concepts of variables, assignments, conditionals, loops, functions, etc?

Your suggested path is great to learn a lot of stuff about web development. It's actually very very good, the more I think about it the more I see you basically covered most of the things one actually does in the job. Especially the googling part right at level 0 ;)

But I'm afraid I wouldn't recommend this path to someone that knows absolutely nothing about programming, isn't it better to start with little puzzles like fizzbuzz and the like to get to know the syntax of the language first?

Which field is that? I thought healthcare but it must not be it because you said there was only one person at the evening shift.

> For a while I couldn't even look at code without getting nauseous and a having a splitting headache. I'm not exaggerating here, it was like I had lost the ability to comprehend code at all.

I thought I was starting to experience burnout this year, but I've never had physical symptons like yours. Before that happened, did you note something particular? I don't think it came out of the blue

I used to drink a couple of beers at home at night from time to time. We used to buy them in the supermarket with my wife. I thought it was normal, but it isn't. This year I have completely stopped my alcohol intake, I stopped buying beer in the supermarket, and for the first time ever in my life I have been able to control my sleep schedule. I also feel less tired.

Maybe give it a try.

I'm not 100% against alcohol - but in the moment I only drink in social settings never alone at home. Not even one beer.

Writing is quite different as compared to speaking. When you write, you have time to think, you can delete your last word, re-read, re-write every sentence, etc.

Writing also externalizes your thoughts, yes. But in a person to person interaction you need to basically "get out of your own head" and externalize your thoughts in real time. You also get to read the body language of the other person, feel the "vibes", etc.

I think person to person interactions, especially if they are important relationships (significant other, family, friends) is what makes us human and I am actively trying to mindfully cut back my screen time both in PC and Phone and just start interacting more. Quite difficult being an introvert and shy person but I think it's worth it.

That's why many people have migrated to discord communities or private forums. For me they are the only "places" left to find some human discussion that is not directly trying to sell you something

I'm going to go with a contrarian take here and just say: It's OK and even mentally healthy to want always more.

As long as you are not giving up your health or your family in the process, I think career wise it's always a good idea to be looking for more. Either an even better job, or to create passive income to not have to work anymore. But many of us feel the "happiest" when we are working towards a specific goal for a brighter future.

Whether we reach or don't reach the goal doesn't matter as much as just feeling the struggle and the improvement. You are just currently in such a comfort zone that feel like this is the "end", but it isn't. You can aim for more and it is ok. And paradoxically you will feel better in your current situation, when you know it's temporary and when you are already working towards a different/better future.

I am far from white, with black hair, black beard and brown eyes and got a 9.5 on attractiveness...

I think it's wrong though, judging by my "success" (lack of) with women.

True. But it's kind of sad if you think about it. Brothers and sisters will be there forever until death. Unlike friends or relationships which can be temporary.

From this year on, I am at least trying to get closer to my sister even if we have not been "friends" before.

This is very true. YT algorithm is scarily good. Now if I really need it, I only browse YouTube for something specific in incognito mode.

Last year I spent an insane amount of hours watching what I thought was a mix of entertainment and educational videos but everything is entertainment on YouTube or as it seems in all the social networks. I’m not against entertainment but I want to be in control when I seek it, not letting myself be hooked by those algorithms all the time every day. They are so scary because they work too well.

I’m glad to finally be able to enter in it :)

Which industries do you consider as the lowest hanging fruits?

"Also, there is the midpoint between monolith and micro service, and this is called Service Oriented Architecture (SOA), you could have:

  - a DAL (Data Abstraction Layer) service
  - a Business Logic service (talking to the DAL)
  - an API (talking to the Business Logic service)
  - a Frontend (talking to the API)"

For me what you describled is just a common monolith.

I've been developing for 8+ years and have seen this model at every company where I've worked. I really thought this was just the "standard" way that everybody used to develop. I've also worked on a couple of CQRS architectures but the "layering" is still very similar to what you described.

I'm curious now, how do other monolith architectures look like if not like this?

Is Sveltekit to Svelte as Next.js is to React?

Or is it more like create-react-app is to react?

Is svelte SEO friendly by default? (SSR)

> "Why do the richest most stable countries feels so insecure?"

Are you referring to only USA/Canada?

I don't feel so much sense of hopelesness or insecurity in Germany.

It’s more a cyclic thing than a pendulum.

We are back to mainframes with the insanity of serverless, lamba functions, etc.

Now your code runs on the mainframe again. Debugging is super hard. And of course aws happily takes your money for the time you spend on their “mainframe”.

It’s a good store of value. Like gold used to be. As a currency I’m not sure it will ever work.

Serious question: How come he is banned forever?

It’s definitely against free speech, I’m with Musk on that one.

If he (or any other person) does something against some written/objective rule then sure ban him temporarily. But permabans should be only for posting illegal stuff.

I grew up in a 3rd world country (now I live in Europe) in a city that by HN comments seems similar to SF (big and full of harmless homeless people/drug addicts everywhere). I remember when I was a kid and I was with my mother I stared to a homeless man for some time. Of course he just seemed peculiar to me, I was a little kid, but this guy got mad and screamed "Do I owe you money or what? why do you keep looking at me?"

My mother grabbed me in her arms and we just went away quickly. She told me to not look at homeless people for so much time. Of course I was very scared, I don't remember exactly how old I was but I still remember the episode some decades later.

I’ve been very satisfied with a Thinkpad E15, AMD Ryzen 7, 32GB of RAM, 1 TB SSD. Costed $1800

Before that I had another thinkpad that served me well for 5 years. It was actually still going strong but I figured out I wanted to upgrade before the coming Taiwan crisis just in case. Now I plan to own this laptop for hopefully a decade

"The grass is always greener" seems to be a fundamental human condition.

Your friend wished he had focused on his career while the people who focused on their careers wished to have lived more experiences.

Married people wished they were single to enjoy the freedom and live a simpler life. While single people wished they met a SO to be less lonely.

People with stable high paying jobs like many developers, daydream about financial independence and quitting their jobs. While most other people dream of just finding a stable high paying job.

People from 1st world countries complain a lot about their own countries while most people in the rest of the world would literally die crossing the border to get there.

Young people wish they were rich. Rich people wish they were young.

And the list goes on and on. This seems to be something very human... Why do we think so much of the things we lack/didn't do but seem to forget what we have/have done?

Honest and naïve question, wouldn't you be afraid that the mainland Chinese government goes to war to take Taiwan back?

Or is this exaggeration from the western media and actually we are very far from a full scale invasion?

Yes! I am also a regular guy, I actually feel a bit below average reading HN, since I live in Germany and don't earn that much compared to US or even UK salaries. But I also don't spend a lot :)

I have many (attainable) goals for when I hit 40, one of them is to be totally financially independent (passive sources of income > monthly expenses). After that I'd love to try a different industry altogether from tech, very likely starting a small, "boring" but low risk business. Not with the goal of getting rich of course. Just because I don't see myself in the tech treadmill my entire life.

But yes what to do in my old age was a big consideration for me when I pondered about having children and my conclusion was that it was not worth to invest so much resources (time and money) into children in the present when I'm still young and with energy, just for having something to do 20 years in the future. Also take into account children will eventually leave home so I'd still be on my own when I'm 60 and older, with or without children.

I have great respect for people that have children and I actually think me and my SO are selfish and probably narcissists. But we only have one life and having children is not a decision you can undo.