cspike

Yeah, I spent some time imagining how terrible this was for the manager. You are totally right that I am an unreliable narrator here.

I agree with you that we shouldn't draw conclusions about Spotify as a whole here. It's a big company with lots of different approaches within it.

What I disagree with is that firing me was an overreaction. I think it was sensible, since we both knew at that point we could not work together.

Wow, thanks a lot! I agree that I handled the situation very badly. The articles you refer to are exactly the guidance I had needed to learn the lesson less harshly. Sometimes I got advice from senior folk about how to navigate a workplace, other times I played by the ear.

When I was working in an office environment, not from home, I often could ask around for advice, get a hint about approaches to different people. It was more of a challenge when remote only.

Yes, you are totally right about the unhelpful urge to "win" and my actions being wrong. Also, exactly as you say, in the end the outcome is negative both for myself and the team.

Being viewed unfavorably by potential workplaces because of telling this story is a great fear, I admit.

You are absolutely right that my actions escalated the situation, and that I shouldn't have done them. One of the lessons from this painful situation is to leave sooner.

Yeah, I completely agree that I brought the outcome on myself.

I'm glad you looked me up on LinkedIn! I have received zero value from that site so my profile there is not serious :)