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I don't think you know what it's like to be an ugly woman.

Thank you for reading the article.

I asked someone & we settled on

Pornhub > AI > OF > real person

From best to worst

This seems so dystopic. Why augment your partner? What happens when kids enter the equation?

I don’t think dating app stats are that reliable. Like matching != sustained interest. They don’t say much about relationship outcomes

Unironically agree, gestured at this too

I don’t think FDS invalidates my point. Misandrists are real, so are misogynists, incels are real and so are femcels. My comment was giving a resource for femcels.

I see it as closer to twilight or Taylor swift fandom than romance per se

I believe they exist. Peep /r/foreveralonewomen for a good example (that’s also public)

That’s a really good question. There were multiple academic papers which asked the question if cybersex was infidelity which seems ridiculous I’m retrospect but I have a feeling this will be similar

Alas the femcel, despite the “single woman” epidemic, cannot enter the convo!

Totally agree lol

Huh? I don’t follow

A list of culture war predictions for 2024, curious what you guys think/where I might be wrong. Feel free to rip to shreds.

Author here!

I think what (maybe?) got lost in this blog post is that it's more about the unhealthy nature of lifestyles that encourage the constant churn of socialization than feeling rejected by someone unfollowing me on Twitter. For me, lots of people I know in person follow me on Twitter, it's a bit of a ding. I'm also a super high visibility person on social and elsewhere, which complicates things.

But lots of folks are in this boat -- people like me who are constantly meeting new people, folks who work in jobs that necessitate hundreds of applications, people on dating apps who go on hundreds of first dates. It's not so much that every individual rejection is a character indictment on anyone involved, it's more that the transient nature of socialization is stressful.

I hope my frame didn't suggest a shallow definition of friendship or one specifically anchored in social.

One last example that might be salient - The Bay Area is all about this kind of radical openness that isn't scalable or sustainable. Even if you have more real friends outside of that framework, being a human airport of connection kind of blows. Maybe a very specific scenario.