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Transitioning to Psychotherapist (eta 2020)
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1. Pain. 2. Uncertainty 3. Ceaseless Effort
Any attempts to exonerate yourself from these laws will necessarily lead to the sense of being stuck (without options) and hopeless (without possibilities). However if you accumulate skills to embrace these laws, you will increase well-being both for yourself and those you care about.
When you say, "things in my life have been a lot harder to do/achieve than they should...", you're headed for a dead end. Any plan that seeks contentment as a destination is likely to be a dead end. The best game to play has no promise of "win" or "lose". It's the game where you get to keep playing. Evolution seems to be playing that game, and it has produced some fairly numinous wonders. You being one of them.
But even so... finally, we all die a tragic, senseless, and humiliating death, the ultimate demoralization. So the only reasonable posture we can take towards a demoralized person (or any person for that matter) is empathy and compassion.
You're poor because one day you will lose everything and everyone you've ever deeply cared for. That's a shame.
Enjoy the few moments you have left. You will have a better chance at this if you stop comparing yourself to others in terms of the milliliters of 'comfort' you can or cannot afford within an OCEAN, a absolute carnival of delight available to all.