escapedmoose

Being stopped is a huge benefit of Pomodoro for me. It gives the brain a cooldown period to back out of stupid decisions/patterns, and to connect pieces that it wasn’t necessarily focusing on. It’s amazing the silly mistakes I’ll catch myself in, or the sudden revelations I’ll have, after coming back from tinkering with a LEGO set for 10 min.

If helicopter parenting is trending up while traffic accidents including kids are trending down, isn’t that more likely to be evidence in favor of helicopter parenting?

Exactly. I came to the conclusion that for me it was an environment/discipline issue because (among other things) my severe-ADHD friends would try the same tactics with 0 effect. If I can manage attention issues with lifestyle changes alone, it’s probably not a brain chemistry problem.

I do think it’s a testament though to how brain-rotting the always-on socials/apps/notifications can be. They messed me up so bad I literally thought I had a medical condition! Yikes.

For a while there I thought I had ADHD, and started looking for avenues to get diagnosed. But when I talked more with some friends who have serious cases of it, I started to doubt. Instead of going for the medication, I removed distracting apps from my phone and logged out of socials. It took a few weeks to settle into the routine, but now my focus/attention problems are all but gone. Go figure!

I do the same. And while it’s frustrating that nothing seems to stick long-term, I think it’s important to be trying. I’ll create a recurring to-do list of errands and I’ll stick to it for a week if I’m lucky. It feels bad when I find all those errands incomplete the following week when there’s a slight change in schedule, but at least those things got done the first week. And I pivot to a new strategy and try it all again.

The cycle stopped bothering me so much when I realized that’s what it is: a cycle. It ebbs and flows with my energy levels. And frankly part of why I can’t keep it up is probably because I’m putting too much demand on myself. If I need to take a break, I guess that’s just what needs to happen. I’ll probably pick up a more productive routine again next week.

I would recommend starting with Spirited Away. It has a bit faster pacing than some of the others, and tons of interesting creatures that really show off the character design prowess. I love Miyazaki and Ghibli films in general, but they do put some people to sleep.

My ring is vintage, the lab-grown emerald replacing whatever stone it used to hold. I imagine that brought down the price. My preference generally is for well-kept vintage jewelry. Beyond thriftiness, there’s an extra charm to wearing something loved by someone before you :)

I and most of my friends (late 20s to early 30s) have non-diamond engagement rings. The consensus is that diamonds are outdated, exploitative, and scammy. I also think they’re not as pretty/eye-catching as my lab-grown emerald.

Tumblr is the only social media site that truly hooks me for hours at a time anymore. So while I’d be sad to see it go and take all its lovely fan communities down… I would get a lot of my time back.

This isn’t the New Yorker.

In the US it varies between companies, but it’s not all that difficult to avoid places that expect extra overtime, or to say “no” when it’s requested in most cases. Eventually they stop asking you, ime. I’m unsure whether declining has a negative impact on one’s career.

I fear this will be one of those moments where all the fun, quirky fanon about the Zelda universe will go ignored. We can only pray that the casting isn’t bland and that they choose Link-as-unpredictable-hellion to script the character

Both of the populations you noted are prime targets for abusers on the internet (as in many other realms of life).

From what I’ve read, quite a few studies have shown a correlation between social media use and mental disorders in teen girls that isn’t nearly as pronounced for boys.

Per #2, the article you linked doesn’t conclude that DEI isn’t valuable, rather that it’s usually not executed effectively.

> That doesn't mean DEI efforts don't work. It is possible to create a program that spurs real change. But it must be reinforced with systems, processes, accountability and rewards, said Owyoung, and continually and actively measured.

And there’s more in the article highlighting the specific gains from doing DEI effectively.

The “tortured artist” trope is overplayed in media vs. the reality. I don’t have the sources on hand, but you might enjoy looking into it: truly prolific and influential artists tend to be those who had stable/comfortable/long enough lives to sustain an art practice. One good book related to this is Daily Rituals by Mason Currey.

I also highly recommend the book Six Myths About the Good Life by Joel Kupperman, which has an accessible explanation of some of the philosophy behind the pursuit of “happiness” vs deeper long-term joy. It’s a book I find myself revisiting every few years because it really makes you think.

Edit: Kupperman’s book specifically analyzes the common assumption you mentioned that “the key is to lower your standards.” …”Better Socrates dissatisfied than a pig satisfied” is a common related saying

Churchgoing/practicing folks of faith, maybe. There are plenty of religious folks who don’t partake in communal practice and who are generally miserable people.

(By “religious folks” I mean “people who have spiritual beliefs aligning with a major religion”)

This is just the original sentence with extra steps. The hypothetical “second chance” you’re attempting to give him was used up every time he chose to take another step in perpetuating his fraud.

I’m not a fan of the current imprisonment establishment either, but this solution doesn’t seem viable.

This attitude seems to follow a very loose definition of the term “fraud” and is likely not what people in this thread mean when they employ the term.

Unlike social media platforms, any given university only has so many physical spaces, blocks of time, advertising and logistics resources, etc. to host speakers. They’re selectively chosen and coordinated.

So when a speaker is invited who is, for example, blatantly hostile to the advertised mission of the university, it raises eyebrows. And it paints a contradictory pictures that devalues the university itself. Or worse, if the message is blatantly hostile to a subset of students, it could discourage some people from even wanting to attend!

People work hard to get accepted to universities which they respect, and they have a vested interest in maintaining their university’s respect in the public eye.

You can recognize that this is a very fringe case and not typical behavior of the “cancel culture” crowd, right?

Some people will choose “tolerance” as a convenient cover for objectively bad behavior, but a good number of popular “cancelation” calls are reasonably motivated when you look at them on a case-by-case basis. You’ll likely not agree with all of them, but there’s at least sensible reasoning behind them. Especially in examples like college campus speakers, where an invite for a speaker can be seen as the institution’s endorsement of the speaker’s belief.

It’s not just that person! I logged back into my long-unused Twitter within the past year (to delete my account) and was presented the same type of content they mentioned above. This despite the fact that my ancient account was dedicated to Animal Crossing memes and whatever books I was reading at the time, never used for anything political. The feed pushed a whole slew of far-right “thinkers,” which was pretty shocking to see.

Not that I have a horse in this race, but…

Your information is always going to be sourced and/or presented by humans with bias. Isn’t it better when that bias is transparent? A solo author draws their reader into a proxy conversation with them (which naturally lends itself to some level of persuasion most of the time). As a reader (I believe) your job is to pay enough attention to catch the author if they’re off-base or not playing fairly, so that you’ll walk away with more accurate understanding than you started.

I suppose if you don’t want to be challenged by a proxy dialogue then a better medium for you would be statistical analysis or a scientific, structured study, but unfortunately most topics just don’t get the dedicated resources to do that properly.

I’ve seen the aggregators and summary bots as well, but that seems even worse: Cherry-picking “facts” from an essay without seeing the context around them? A recipe for misunderstanding and/or getting the wool pulled over your eyes.

Maybe the best solution is for every article to have a comments section where folks can point out inaccuracies and inconsistencies to help each other out? Citizen fact-checkers? Then you wind up with… this same article, as-is, posted on Hacker News alongside intelligent debate ;)

There’s more than one reason to read an article. Often the story is the point.

Maybe it’s not easy, but many people find that attitude useful in a variety of circumstances. Maybe this is part of why some of us seek the advice/perspectives of the dying. Life is rarely peaceful unless we make it deliberately so.

Oh absolutely. I personally had legitimately 0 fear of death until 30. Then it began to creep up.

> There is no reason to perceive a dying person as having special insight

Have you ever had a near-death experience? Those often seem to be followed by a sense of clarity that inspires some people to live better. They seem to cut through the crud and reveal the unimportance of certain things, and highlight the value of other things

From your link, homeschooling is…

> negatively associated with college degree attainment (RR = 0.77, 95% CI: 0.67, 0.88) and possibly with greater risk of posttraumatic stress disorder.

I’m sure I’m just unlucky and that the 3/4 abuse ratio doesn’t hold for the broader population. Higher rate of PTSD is suspect though.

Unfortunately, of the 4 people I know personally who were homeschooled, it was a vehicle for abuse for 3 of them.

One friend’s mom wouldn’t teach him the curriculum for months, and then when she knew a test was coming up she would make him study with her for 14 hours a day to try to cram it in. Then when he naturally performed poorly on state exams he was punished (often physically) for not trying hard enough. She regularly woke him up for classes when she wanted to be awake at 2 or 3 am, then later after her afternoon nap at 6 or 8pm. He grew up constantly tired, without a regular schedule of meals, and never made it to the group outings because he felt sick all the time.

Another friend’s mom just couldn’t be bothered to teach and just took her out on “learning” hikes with other homeschooling moms, never taught her anything, and wound up sending her back to public school with severely (I mean severely) underdeveloped skills after being held back for several years.

Neither of these parents I’m sure “planned” to abuse their children in this way. They just weren’t up for the task of teaching in the way that a child requires, and their own personal issues turned that into a larger problem. But my friends suffered for it.

Baltimore’s government has been corrupt af for years for some reason or another. In this circumstance, they should be treated as an outlier imo