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However, around six months, when he started to be able to actually do things for himself, like hold his own bottle, I started to feel a shift. Now he's 15 months old and I completely understand what everyone means when they say "you'll never love anything more." Being with him is the most heart-breakingly beautiful part of my life and I wouldn't have it any other way.
All that said, I firmly believe that kids aren't the only, or even best, path to fulfillment for everyone. In fact, I still don't really get the same sense of accomplishment from raising him that I do from my work. And I'm sure if we didn't have him, I would be able to do some other amazingly beautiful thing that helped other people or just made me happy.
This is all to say, don't write anything off, even if it feels like a mistake for far longer than you think it should. Sometimes doing something just because someone you love wants it so much more than you can turn out better than you expect. On the other hand, finding someone who wants the same things as you can turn out just as good. Be open, that's all I'm trying to say.
I might never be anything more than someone who's pretty good at his job and is appreciated by the people he works for, but I get to do the exact same thing that Steve Jobs held most dear — spend time with my wife and son.
Only glitch I've run into so far is that the search function doesn't work. As far as I can tell, there's no type="submit" for the form.
The cold email advice at the bottom is spot on too. In the last couple months, I've had lunch with two rather well-known people in my field who I have tons of respect for. In both cases, I cold emailed them and asked to get together.
I just checked and I can still access my account without a Facebook account linked to it, but I wonder if they're going to pull that out as well.
https://twitter.com/#!/andyrutledge/status/95664717669994496
https://twitter.com/#!/andyrutledge/status/94536441488621569
http://www.andyrutledge.com/how-to-join-aiga.php
Again, if it works for him, great. It just makes it harder for me personally to be objective about him and his work.
I think that's going to be the problem. My wife used to work for families to whom money was pretty much no object. $42 and $16 are equivalent in their mind, and equal to about $0.25 to a family on a budget. I don't see them wanting the hassle of having to remember to return clothes within 3 months when it's effectively the same % of their income to buy them.
I certainly don't want to make a crusade out of it, but it just felt a little misplaced to me.