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DC @ AP was probably peak 'con. You can't even reference pool numbers with kids these days...

The AP _hated_ us but they had a multi-year contract.

If all your friends jumped off a bridge...

No mom! I'm afraid of heights!

But anyway, I won't buy a vehicle with a subscription based feature list that isn't something like a concierge service. If it's in the vehicle, I've already paid for the gear. (This changes once there's a community of moto hackers that can disable the lockouts... ish)

Bear attacks are extremely rare but the locals take precautions anyway. Pretty much everyone has a shotgun and very few doors are locked.

My wife would move us there if housing wasn't an issue, so I've had this conversation.

My parents sucked and half of them definitely didn't enjoy kids, despite having many. My wife's parents sucked and still suck. My kid's parents don't suck but my life is definitely not made more enjoyable anywhere near 100% of the time because I have a kid. It has moments but it's also a huge financial and time commitment. My wife and I would be better off financially without a child and her health would be far better. (Having a kid was the catalyst to many medical problems.)

Do you have a support team that shares the load with you? We don't have anyone we can rely on. My in-law that does fly out sometimes would rather play with their phone than be a grandparent and we can't trust them to so much as drive a dog to the vet because we're sure they'd get distracted or lost or just crash.

Kids are a ton of of work. Life is a ton of work. Combine those two things and have no "village" to speak of and it's often too much. There's no pop psychology needed to point out that for many people, kids aren't their best life. Kids aren't always rewarding. Sometimes the right answer is the easy answer: if you don't want kids, having one will not be a net positive for your life.

We also downvote sh*tposting

Because one day they'll be 30!

Why is your experience the only one? Congratulations on feeling good about your decision but you're not everyone and your opinion is narrow and selfish.

Lies and misdirection? To think we've evolved past that is a mistake. We pay lip service to it but we haven't moved on. We still shame working women because they don't have or don't spend enough time with their kid(s). Then we shame stay-at-home mom's for being lazy. We're fun!

We're not doing so hot on the expectations for women either. People still assume Mom is going to quit and stay home more often than dad and her level of care is expected to be significantly higher. I'm a great dad when I go to a birthday party for one of the school friends. My wife is just mom, despite debilitating pain and chronic illnesses that people are aware of. She also plans all of the logistics and the gifts and everything else. I'm really good at showing up and playing though. Score!

I wouldn't choose to be a mom in this world. They're far too underappreciated.

This. I'm not a single parent and I'm a high earner but my wife has chronic medical issues. I spend a lot more of my time on home things now because I have a kid and it's demanding. When our kid is school, I can focus. When they're not, I struggle to perform. If I had enough spare money to have a full time nanny/housekeeper, my live would be much easier and my kid would probably be happier because our time with them would be higher value. I can absolutely see why people would opt out. It's hard.

Do we think Bon Jovi would be happy or sad about this?

Every use I can think of around "blaze of glory" is about dying in a gun fight. I'm reading this as a threat.

Do DMs become directX's?

The internet wrecked pornography. It's become a game of extremes. There are studies that indicate that kids today think the violence depicted in what we used to call "hardcore" is what's normal and expected. Both boys and girls think this and young women are suffering through humiliation and abuse instead of thinking that sex should be a mutually pleasurable act. AI is just going to make it worse and more extreme but it's already wrecked.

I'm not good with generative AI. I always make acid trip soup. Is there a version of this where I can drop photos of my face and have it generate variations of me? Preferably a SFW version because I'm more curious about the level of difficulty in generation than becoming internet trash.

Due process does not apply to corporations and the supreme Court has made it very clear that anyone can discriminate against anyone they want, for any reason, real or imagined and opt to not do business with them. Amazon doesn't need to deliver things to you if they think you're a jerk.

> in this case the person had to submit evidence of their innocence to amazon by way of other Camera's. what if no evidence had existed to refute the drivers claim?

Amazon is not a right. If they couldn't prove it wasn't true, Amazon doesn't owe them anything except possibly a refund on the smart devices (I could see that).

Pretending to take payment information is out what playbook? Selling things that don't exist is common or selling things that don't exist yet is common but pretending to take payment is weird. In fact, I'd burn that card.

I checked and they don't validate card information, which is at least something. I didn't bother to look at what the site is doing because if the fake info I put in was flagged, I would have already known. I assume they're collecting and storing contact info.

Just got one to stuff into my kid's backpack, for tracking and emergencies. I'm probably going to buy a Unihertz for myself, when it's time to upgrade. It's a little thick but it fits in a pocket so much better. I'd actually trade but the size is necessary for stashing in her bag.

This sounds like where I am right now. Made some bad choices in alignment and I'm flat. Maybe I'll crawl out, maybe I won't. I have an exit strategy though, so in the long run, it will pay off.

In my next life, I want this. I work 4x what you do but make double. It's very often not worth it. Your priorities are right. When my cost of living goes down, I'll join you.

I don't always have good days and I love that there are things like this. Some of those quotes have me rolling.

I appreciate your sacrifice and thank you for the review. I won't waste my time.

Thank you for the clarification. The descriptions I'm seeing imply that your telemetry code is embedded in network enabled devices. It's good to know that this data collection only applies to your whitebox.

Thank you. I appreciate the response.

My ISP can do what they want with their equipment but I prefer anything inside my firewall to not phone home.

What do you mean, they clearly spell out how little they collect, in their privacy policy:

> The amount of personally identifiable information stored by SamKnows is limited to; name, email, and address. All metadata and personally identifiable information is both encrypted at rest and in transit on SamKnows servers. It is never stored or transmitted to or from the test agent

See? Nothing to worry about, just your name, email and address. Very little that could actually pinpoint who you are or where you are.

Ref: https://samknows.com/blog/testing-principles

What firewall rules can I put in place to block whatever telemetry my devices are shipping to you?

As someone raised in a major religion who opted out, I can confirm that I quickly became an outside to my religious community. I don't feel it was much of a loss though. The only reason I knew those people was church.

This is probably less common with people who go to church in holidays only. The devout are different.

Yes. It's a pro-birth movement, not life. Life lasts a long time and that's expensive and "something she should have thought about before having kids" or some such gymnastics. These same folks will gladly spit on a child because their parents are poor or talk about it like it's some kind of lesson they deserve.

When everyone is a contractor, you actually have to treat them they way too. That means there are benefits and supportive actions you cannot take or they become an employee by the implication. Then you may have to setup a local business, convert them to full time and deal with the local gov. It sounds much simpler than it is.

For instance, maternity/paternity leave. If you give someone full leave, one could argue that it's a benefit only afforded to FTEs and that could be enough to convince the local business office that the person is, in fact, an FTE. Now you're in violation and have to pay fines as well as setup a local office of one, who will never visit said office. So you do the proxy office thing, which incurs cost right away. Come tax season, you have to figure out what you owe based on the person and your new legal status as a for profit business in the area. Your cost to operate has just become significantly higher. Now you have to rethink the position and location and a non zero number of these will result in closing the local role and having to let someone go. Lose lose for everyone. The alternative path says "no baby leave because you're a contractor." That sucks too because you like the people you hire and want to do right by them but that also means keeping them employed.

You can find alternatives and that's not a literal situation but it is the combination of a few situations into one example, so the contents are real but not as a single tale. (I don't want to tell anyone's specific story.)

Global remote hiring is hard.

We have a pretty geographically diverse remote team. It's wildly complicated to deal with, both from a team side and the HR side. Coordinating conversations with everyone when they're spread all over the world leaves very few possible times and those times are needed by everyone, so there's a lot of meeting collision. And employment law is different everywhere. You can't afford to setup "offices" in every location, so everyone is a contractor/consultant. They work full time and have an equity plan but it's all a bunch of little personal businesses. Focusing on a few key locations makes this more manageable.

Big companies can afford the investment into many small locations and they can afford having the regional expertise to avoid running afoul of local and federal governments. In an ideal world, we'd make this easy for ourselves but the world is not ideal.

None of this is true. It doesn't encourage password reuse but it does protect against it. I've also never found a single site that wouldn't let me reset MFA, even if the support process was painful and slow.

FWIW, password reuse with MFA is not actually that much of a problem any more. Neither is rotation (which was show to be a net negative). There's a whole set of NIST guidelines on the topic.